My thoughts

of

Cherish

In the course of your work, whether inside or outside the company, have you ever encountered someone you don't get along with or someone you want to avoid? Sometimes, your thoughts and feelings may be 180 degrees different from those of the other person.

In the past, I basically didn't like people. I was completely "me-first," thinking that my own thoughts were always correct, and I didn't try to accept the thoughts or feelings of others.

Despite this, I couldn't help but be concerned about the other person's movements, and I found myself feeling dissatisfied.

I started by writing about bad examples, but I've now changed my way of thinking a little.

The ideal situation is to focus on what you can do, rather than trying to force yourself to be considerate to others or to be liked. In my experience, this approach ultimately leads to more people empathizing with your feelings and willing to cooperate.

I never get along with people whose thoughts and ideas are not in line with mine, and I live my life with a "No match, No meet" mentality, never meeting people who don't suit me.

However, I don't try to force my ideas on others. They are not the same as me, and there are always differences.

If you expect others to adapt to you, when they don't, you'll feel frustrated and dissatisfied by the gap.

If you think of yourself and the other person as different, you will feel more at ease and less dissatisfied as a result. However, when someone acts or behaves in a way that is different from how you think they should, it can be simple irritation and frustration.

In the past, I would dwell on those feelings and get stuck in a quagmire, wondering whether I or the other person was right, but now I calm myself down by shortening the amount of time I spend feeling those emotions.

myself

but

Ready to change

When there are differences in thinking between you and the other person, I think there will be times when some kind of reconciliation is necessary.

At that time, it is recommended to think of yourself as a party involved.

If you think that you are the only one who has to endure, or that you are being forced to do things, it will become increasingly difficult and painful. It may be hard to get used to it at first, but the key is to change your mindset and tell yourself, "If I'm going to change anyway, I'd rather do it quickly!" and make up your mind to change yourself instead of waiting for the other person to change .

If you have high expectations for the other person to change, the results will not go as you expected and you will end up feeling bad.

Instead of thinking that you "shouldn't have expectations," simply accept that humans are creatures that tend to have expectations, and by "lowering your expectations," you will no longer feel upset when things don't go as you expected.

The more you expect someone to change, the more their guard will be up and the less likely they are to change.

To change

teeth

"Win or lose"

isn't it

The more you think about whether you or the other person will change, the less likely you will be to take action.

It is important to choose what you think is most likely to lead in a positive direction and take the initiative to "execute" it.

As an example, let me tell you a little about how we have created a comfortable working environment at Oka Foods.

I believe that what will bring happiness to everyone involved is for employees to achieve the best results possible within the limited time they have available that will please stakeholders, resulting in increased profits.

To make it easier for employees to work, we cleaned up the office, installed larger monitors, and created an environment where employees could work from home.

Our goal is to have our employees do a good job, and we have chosen to create a "friendly working environment" as one way to increase that possibility.

Some people may think that creating a comfortable working environment means pampering employees and that it will end with employee satisfaction. However, when it comes to putting it into practice, if you think in terms of "right or wrong" or "win or lose," you will not be able to put it into action.

In the past, there were times when I made excuses and put my guard up, preventing me from putting my ideas into practice.

Therefore, in terms of winning or losing, I certainly didn't lose, but I didn't gain anything because I wasn't able to take action.

Unless you change and take action, you will never achieve your goals or realize what you envision.

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